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Friday, 12 February 2016

What Guys Should Know About Threesomes

I have had a lot of 3somes...and by a lot I mean, I have no idea how many but very regularly and with regular partners so that the number of threesomes I have had approaches the number of times I've had 1vs1 sex. So I'm gonna share with you some of what I have learned. 






First, a threesome is not some magical fantasy thing -- it's not inherently going to make you feel good about yourself unless you bring yourself fully into the experience and open your heart to the people you are with.  Just like regular lovemaking: it's all about connecting with your partners and sharing with them.  If you are ready to laugh, love and share yourself...and relax and have a good time...then a threesome is for you. If you're doing it to achieve some form of holy grail of sexual experience...gtfo. You'll be bringing way too much bullshit into the experience and it won't work well.

Be chill, be relaxed. Seriously, chill and enjoy. If you are there giggling and making your partners feel more comfortable -- all the better.  If you are sporting a 'serious face' that is laiden down with performance anxiety...God, just listen to how that sounds! Would you want to kiss someone in that state? Nope.  You gotta be relaxed and looking to have fun no matter what happens. Don't be attached to some result -- as who the fuck knows how this is gonna turn out?   I've found the best plan is to have plan. B-)  

threesome-kissOne of your partners may feel awkward. Yeah, it happens.  Just like in regular 2-some sex.  Pay attention and comfort them...let them know that you are there to support them in whatever they need -- and be there for them.  Don't try and plow through their 'resistance' or have you and the other willing party amp up their sexual energies while this poor girl is feeling lost and confused about her feelings.  Amping up the sexual energy at this point is going to alienate her further and she's will probably end up distancing herself and perhaps watching...or even leaving the room. Why? Because you ignored how she was feeling. Any lover that ignores how you are feel gets left. 

Most guys think of 2 girls and themselves as the ultimate experience.  This is partly to do with homophobia and partly to do with selfishness.  Now don't get me wrong, 2 girls at once works just fine...if you are confident and have excellent stamina -- and you are up to it.  But I'm willing to wager that most guys aren't. This is from talking to girls too...saying that they made him cum fast and then...it was girl on girl time.   Most guys I've talked to have admitted that they are really scared of actually having to perform for 2 girls at once.  When the situation arose, they ended up bailing out to save face. That's fine. Recognize your limits.  That said, two girls in a loving triad is one of the best things ever --and I adore the female energy becoming an unbridled sexuality -- but it takes a while for that energy to build up to full strength (like...30min?)  so you actually have to be into this for a considerable tine for it to really pay off. Oh, and that said, I am not into 2 straight girls at once just focusing on me. Personally, if that was the case, I'd prefer 1 and then the other. So I could focus fully on the girl and not have a 'competing for attention' situation. Gack...maybe that's just me but I don't really get straight girls or know what to do with 2 of them at once.   

One bi girl and 1 straight girl is a recipe for disaster.  If a bi girl is using the 3some as an excuse to make moves on a straight girl...it's gonna blow up in your face. The straight girl is gonna be awkward as fuck and backing up and moving away from her --- and towards the guy...and the whole dynamic is terrible.  This is probably the awkward 'after' case where people don't speak to each other (I really don't know...I've never had a 3some end in a situation where people didn't talk.)  

2 Guy and a Girl works really really well.  Girls have the capacity to handle more guys. Pun intended.  While a girl may have her sexual energy build over 20 minutes...a typical male only lasts 5 so...she's left holding the pillow and wondering why she didn't cum and what's wrong with her.  But if you have 2 guys taking turns and focusing on her...she's in heaven.  It's like...1/4 the performance pressure as if you back off there's someone that's got your back right there, picking up the slack. Taking turns mean you both can last longer and when you guys are done, she's done too :)  Trust me, this really works well and the girls have been glowing afterwards.

3some-laughing-happy2 Bi guys and a girl -- Newsflash: many girls have fantasies about being with 2 guys that are into each other. I know, shocking! Especially since 2 girls into each other is such an uncommon male fantasy! Haha.  Guys feel warm, soft and nice -- not that different from girls. But most guys have societal barriers preventing them from even considering this path. So I'm here to advocate for sexual experimentation and enjoyment.  If you try it and like it...it's all good. And there being a girl present means you're not gay so you can chill out and experience it for what it is.   

2 Straight guys and girl works well too -- but you gotta be chill about touching each other. There's no cooties or minus points if you touch each other.  But having a magical shield wall where you try to never contact any part of the other guy ever....while you are naked and in bed -- is retarded.  You can do a way better job if you accept you are going to touch the other guy at times and that's ok. Focus on pleasuring the girl and if you can pleasure her more by adjusting yourself such that you touch the other guy...whatever.  Personally, I'm a hedonist and if I can fuck her harder and better (for my own pleasure too) I'm taking that path. 

Hmmmm...what else can I say?  3 Way kisses are the best!

Let's see...do not advertise or let on to the girls and ESPECIALLY to someone else that you are trying to have a 3some.  Girls hate being perceived as sluts and won't go with you if it makes them look slutty. Even if they want it...they will not go.  So don't even hint about it with other people.  And hinting that you want a threesome will also seem desperate.   Do you go up to a girl in a bar and say, "I'd really like to have sex tonight?" No...because it's a fail.  Saying you'd like to have a 3some is exactly the same thing. Just do it and don't talk about it.

If for whatever reason you have the girls agree... do not pass hesitate. Immediately drive, take a cab, find the fastest route possible to a bedroom and do it before they change their minds. When a girl is ready and wants to have sex...treat it like a window that is already starting to shut.  You may be ready to fuck whenever the opportunity comes along but she's not wired like that. When she wants to fuck: she wants to fuck.  If you don't do fuck her...she'll think you're a pussy. And so will I ;)  But getting 2 girls to line up at the same time...pull the trigger ASAP or you'll miss the game.  And don't talk about it on the way either!

Act like you would with one girl. Just because you are with two girls doesn't mean you should become a fucktard. Don't do or say anything that you wouldn't 1on1.  For example, thanking them up and down in advance...if thank a girl repeatedly for sex before you have sex with her...she's going to think you are desperate.   That won't change if there is an audience -- in fact it makes it worse.  

If you are with your regular girlfriend and a new girl, pay more attention to your girlfriend!  I can't emphasize this enough. The new girl will see that she is joining you in this experience and want to join you guys... meanwhile, your girlfriend will not feel like you are way more interested in the new girl than her.  Besides, you are probably most comfortable with her anyway -- so do what comes naturally before trying to factor in the new girl.
The new girl may sit there watching and unsure what to do...so invite her in by touching her and bringing her closer.   But don't try and force your gf and her to kiss -- as they will kiss when they want to.  But if they are not ready...it'll establish a very weird dynamic from the get go. 

Remember, the point is not to see two girls kissing -- the point is to share an experience and enjoy yourselves. Never lose track of this goal. 

What else can I say? One guy fucking her ass and one guy fucking her pussy...is often seen in porn but the angles don't exactly line up well so you both can move...it's a lot trickier than it looks to get this into a working formation. But a blowjob and sex is super easy to configure. 

fingering-shaved-bisexual-girls-threesomeAlso easy and gives her a lot of pleasure is the guy fucking her (pussy or ass) and the other person sucking on her clit.  Also, if you're the guy sucking her clit, you can get an amazing view of her ass being fucked that's way better than porn. Oh, and you're getting a blowjob at the same time B-)

Not everyone ends at the same time.  If you are done first...get some refreshments and fruit for everyone and come back as they're likely to be hungry and thirsty afterwards. 

It's okay if someone gets up and leaves -- and then comes back in and joins in again. Things come in waves (again, pun intended) and sometimes it's nice to have some 1-on-1 connection and while she goes off to pee or just take a break for a few minutes. 

Oh! Protection! Female condoms are a fucking godsend! They are not perfect for oral sex on her -- which is the biggest drawback...but man, does it make switching between girls sooo much easier and natural. 
How to Start a Threesome.  As for how to start a threesome...that's a damn tricky thing as I honestly have no idea.  They just tend to start around me and I go with the flow. Alcohol and drugs certainly don't hurt...but are by no means required and most 3somes I have had were sober. Basically, if people are into it...it just tends to happen.  I've had one start by a girl saying, "Let's all go get horizontal." And that worked for me ;)  The best way to start is by kissing both girls at the same time and seeing who is into it...but I think that mostly means you have read everyone well already. Just read the people and know that they are probably just as into a threesome as you are -- but you are the guy so let's face it: you're probably the one that's going to have to make the first move. So get them alone and it should work...as long as you are comfortable and natural and make it all seem easy. 

2 comments:

  1. You didn't mention who to have a threesome with! :'(

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  2. The mention of protection in threesomes is nice to see and rare advice too. I would not have thought of female condoms.

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