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Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Slut Revolution (the 2nd Sexual Revolution)

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This is a call for a 2nd Sexual Revolution -- to end slut shaming and improve sexual freedom as dramatically as the 1st sexual revolution transformed sex. Everyday sexism is a part of our society as it is in the very roots of our Western culture. I am writing this because I was recently looking at some rather fucked up threads posted on imagefap which was essentially woman-hating-snuff porn. It didn't actually contain 'snuff images' but the words or captions on the photos were focused on killing these naked or scantily clad females. It was clearly hate fueled porn made by men who held a deep seated hatred against women (and this definitely seemed linked to women's sexuality.)  Now it's important to state that this kind of overt sexism is not representative of most men's attitudes. But when I think about workplace sexual politics I see the opposite extreme where any form of sexual advance is considered harassment. This is clearly from an HR perspective where they don't want employees distracting each other with sex  -- and the snowballing drama of office relationships...and it is no doubt supported by radical feminists who consider any form of penis related sex as 'rape'.  However, offering to get off with someone (an act that she's likely to enjoy if it's done right) is not equal to being a misogynist fuck. In fact, this form of sexual repression is likely to see the 'good guys' pay attention and behave a neutered yet sexually frustrated drones and the other misogynists become inflamed with even more hatred towards women.

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A casual proposition is clearly very different from a violent sexual assault and yet somehow they have been equated. And this unjust equation is creating a greater schism between the sexes instead of healing the wound.  In my mind, criminal acts of sexual assault are deplorable but sexual liberty is a blessing and the way to actually heal this entire situation. And where exactly is the line? A clumsy and awkward sexual advance by an inexperience man makes the woman uncomfortable and so it is criminal? I don't think that's fair. Certainly a respectful sexual invitation by a socially skilled and attractive man is not what the ladies are concerned about -- and yet that too crosses the line, at least in the workplace (and women suffer the consequences of this.)

sex_advertising_sexismThe feminists I know have been into sexual freedom and enjoying sex for sex sake --- without being bounded by ideas such as monogamy or gender appropriate relationships. Which is as it should be. I have been directly and forcefully propositioned by liberated girls and every time, regardless if I accepted or not, I was impressed by her for being so bold.  Even if the girl isn't to my liking -- or she didn't 'warm me up enough' before making her move...it was all good. But such an approach by men is often considered highly inappropriate now....and I wonder how we got into such a fucked up state.

Sure, Freud and later Herbert Marcuse spoke about restraining sexual gratification within society and linking it to performance so that the realities of life don't cause society to break down. Let's take a look at those realities: money, social standing, property, marriage and procreation.  All of these things are very much a part of patriarchal capitalist culture and have little to do with actual reality -- given things like condoms and birth control. And what is shunned in this society is pleasure for pleasure's sake.  And yet at the same time, this very repression of pleasure drives it directly into the foreground of human interaction. Which is probably why direct sexual advances are both uncommon and condemned as harassment.

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So how do we get out of this situation? We have to recognize that sexual advances are a goodness and freedom of sexual expression, lovemaking, bonding and general joyful physical expression and it's resulting pleasures should all be welcomed and encouraged as a part of liberated progressive thinking.

I am envisioning a world and society where people of any gender can be comfortable with making
and receiving straightforward sexual advances. Women should be encouraged to be direct and be free to initiate any activity that they wish to be a part of. If a male approaches a female who is not interested, she should simply say, 'no, but thanks for the offer!' and the guy should be cool with that because, well, now he knows and he can start looking for someone who is wanting what he offers.   The same is true for any gender combination -- as no sexual advance is inherently wrong (I am speaking specifically of male on male which can sometime result in a completely unwarranted violent response.)   And am I going to raise up another taboo of age...where nothing magical happens at 18 so consent laws don't make any sense whatsoever -- but the exclusion of young adults who have hit puberty from any form of sexual conversation is also a driving factor in making people awkward as fuck about sex.   People reach sexual maturity around 12-13 and yet everything they learn about sexuality as it is imprinted on them in this impressionable time is in a context of repression and straight forward messages like, 'it is wrong to be sexual at your age and as far as you are concerned sex does not exist' (except that every hormone in your body is screaming for it) -- and that repression does not magically go away at 18. Nope, we get stuck with it for life. So we have to find a way to come to terms with sexuality at any age and can no longer pretend that it doesn't exist (especially so considering that way more than 50% of humans have sex before the age of consent.) Let's take our heads out of the sand on this taboo topic.

But the most damaging taboo of them all? The worst: women who are sexually empowered and pursue the guys they want to fuck are shamed as 'sluts' or 'whores' as if having good sex with people you want to fuck is a bad thing! The way I see it, these women are on the leading edge of transforming our society for the better. Sluts need to be praised and applauded as empowered women. Slut shaming must end as it is one of the most harmful forces in fucking up sexual relations for everyone.

rosie_yes-we-can-evolveSo let's reform our behavior codes and start to accept the fact that sex is fucking great. There should be no shame from having sex and no shame in offering to do it if you feel like it. Sex is about mutual pleasure and it is one of the greatest pleasures in life. Sex is free and it should be had freely. And only by embracing and teaching good, proper sexual etiquette can we hope to curtail boorish and overly aggressive sexual misconduct and replace it with respectful sexual expression. It is time for the 2nd round of sexual revolution -- one that actually frees and enlightens the people (and especially women.) Let's start with reclaiming the word 'slut' and re-purpose it to describe what it actually describes: a liberated, sexually empowered being who is brave enough to put her own pleasure first. The 2nd sexual revolution is the slut revolution! Long live the slut!

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