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Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Sex and the Law: BDSM and Consent

A recent article in the news today was Jian Ghomeshi (former host of CBC radio's show Q and a celebrity in Canada) was fired for his sexual preferences. You see, apparently he practiced BDSM and has the balls to admit it.  Well, he was fired because of that and his jilted ex-girlfriend's allegations that they practiced kinky sex. He says all the sex they had was consensual and that he used things like safe words.




Specifically he said:
We discussed our interests at length before engaging in rough sex (forms of BDSM). We talked about using safe words and regularly checked in with each other about our comfort levels. She encouraged our role-play and often was the initiator. We joked about our relations being like a mild form of Fifty Shades of Grey or a story from Lynn Coady’s Giller-Prize winning book last year. I don’t wish to get into any more detail because it is truly not anyone’s business what two consenting adults do. I have never discussed my private life before. Sexual preferences are a human right.

But according to outdated and retarded Canadian laws, you cannot consent to bodily harm, no matter how slight. Bruising is too much and can result in charges.  And the cops are only too eager to pursue these cases because they are lazy and let's call a spade a spade, not  the brightest people...and bruising is damn easy to prove.

It doesn't matter if all the parties involved are intelligent, informed, willing participants.  If everyone involved wants to play then the government should go fuck itself.  To quote our former Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau, 'The state has no place in the bedrooms of the nation." Well Canada... our leadership has spoken. So let's change this goddamn insanity and accept the reality that people enjoy bondage and kinky sex. Duh.

Worse, the police has stated that they spoke to 4 other women and former lovers of Jian,  whom they refer to as 'victims' who were also 'abused' by Jian. Well, yeah, if you consider spanking a girl who WANTS to be spanked abuse then sure, she's a victim. I prefer the label 'adult' myself.

And none of the 'victims' of Jian's 'abuse'  have chosen to come forward 'for fear of internet retribution' according to police. WTF? This smells of complete bullshit by the police. One, Canada has great laws regarding anonymity with respect sexual assault -- their names should never been seen in the public sphere (there would also be media bans to help protect them.) I think the sad truth is: the police don't have a fucking case nor a shred of evidence. His former play partners aren't coming forward because the law is stupid and that's it.

I am speculating a lot here...but my gut feeling is: the only victim here is Jian. He is likely being
wrongly persecuted by an over-aggressive police force that is attempting to enforce out-dated Victorian era laws that really need to be changed.  This was probably kicked off by the jilted ex who should be the one under scrutiny for ruining this man's life. He's lost his job and this legal fiasco will probably be with him for years before he finally proves the obvious: he is not guilty of any type of sexual assault but simply was enjoying a normal sex life.

[Note: Consent is key and a must in every BDSM relationship. I am not advocating rape or the abuse of women -- if such details come out to support this at a later time,  what I am saying about BDSM and the law in Canada still holds true even if the details of this particular case do not support it. ]

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